As intentional disciple-makers, we need to be able to evaluate where our disciples are on their spiritual journeys. In order to do this well, we must be in relationship with them. In order to better understand what this looks like, it helps to consider the role of a parent with a child. Moses writes about this in Deuteronomy 6:7.
Deuteronomy 6:7 Talk about [the commandments] when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.
In other words, when we are parents, our goal is to guide our children to maturity — to help them mature and grow so that they move from one stage of development to the next and eventually become effective adults and parents themselves.